How to Tell Your Family That You’re Struggling With Addiction

Many people with a drug or alcohol addiction struggle with feelings of shame, guilt, and frustration. These types of emotions can make it seem impossible to talk to family and loved ones about substance abuse. Admitting that you need help can feel like a terrifying and overwhelming experience. What if they are disappointed and let down? Will your loved ones be angry?

Whatever your fears and doubts may be, reaching out for help is always a better option than bottling up your problems and causing yourself more pain. Hiding your addiction will only make you feel more isolated and alone. Being honest with your family and reaching out for support is an act of courage. It’s a major accomplishment that can put your recovery on the right track.

Preparing for an Open Conversation with Your Family

Plan what to say

Imagining what to say to your family is one thing and having the actual conversation is another. It’s easy to feel anxious and confused in the moment so preparing ahead of time can make it easier and less overwhelming. Writing down the main points of what you want to say is a helpful way to keep the conversation on-topic and productive. You may also find it useful to practice the conversation with a trusted friend before having one with your family.

If you’re unsure of how to bring up the topic, here are some opening lines to use:

• I need your help with a problem I have. Do you have a few minutes to talk?

• Do you have time to talk with me? I want to tell you about something that’s been bothering me and making my life difficult.

• I need to have a serious conversation with you about something I’m struggling with. This is hard for me to talk about so I hope you will be supportive.

Prepare for positive and negative reactions

The hardest part of the conversation is predicting how your family will react. They may be shocked to hear that you’re struggling with addiction or may have already suspected it. It’s possible that they will feel sad, embarrassed, or angry. Some family members may take the conversation better than others and immediately offer their support and help. Family members may also want to express how your drug or alcohol usage has impacted their lives.

Whether their reaction is positive or negative, be prepared to work through any strong feelings that arise. It may take them a few days or weeks to process the information and their emotions.

Ask for help from a trusted friend

If you’re nervous about your family members having negative reactions, ask a close, supportive friend to be on standby during the conversation. Having them nearby or in the same room can help you feel more at ease if you’re finding it hard to open up. In the event that your family doesn’t react positively, a friend could also bring you to a place where you feel comfortable.

What to Say to Your Family About Your Addiction

Find the right moment

Everyone dreads having a difficult conversation because it seems like there is never a good time to talk. Putting it off though only lets your addiction continue and potentially get worse. Choose a quiet location to approach your loved ones where you feel safe. Have the conversation at a time when you feel calm and able to stay in control and handle their reactions.

Express your emotions and concerns

Be honest with your family about how addiction makes you feel and how it affects each aspect of your life, from work to relationships to your health. Tell them about how addiction changes your body physically and mentally, which makes it difficult to stop using drugs or alcohol. Explain to them that withdrawal symptoms and the risk of relapse make it almost impossible to quit cold turkey. Ask them to respect your privacy and not share this news with other people without your permission.

Ask for help

To overcome the stigma of addiction, it’s important to remind your family that addiction is a chronic illness and not a choice. Let your family know that you want to change your life and that you’re not asking them to support your addiction–you’re asking them to support your recovery. Share with them that their encouragement and love will help you get your life to a better place. Ask them to help you find a safe place to begin treatment.

Benefits of Being Honest About Your Addiction

While it seems overwhelming to talk to your family about addiction, being honest can provide a great deal of relief. Getting this secret off your chest can give you a sense of freedom to fully commit to treatment and make changes to your life. Recovery is a long process but you don’t have to go it alone. Opening up to those closest to you is a great first step towards building a supportive network. During tough times, turning to people for comfort and advice can make a big difference.

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